You don’t expect words of wisdom to come from the mouth of a visual kei Japanese rock bassist, but they did. When asked to give one piece of life advice, Reita replied, “In order to change, change.” I just watched The Secret Life of Walter Mitty with my family. I loved it. It spoke to me on a personal level, because I can roll with change – but I don’t often embrace it. I daydream about things I’d like to do, or I wish I’d worked up the nerve to do a thing I didn’t. Oh, I’m plucky enough to ask a stranger what their tattoo means, or tell them they’re beautiful. I realize these things might mean a lot to someone, and I want to do what I can. But big things, stuff that takes growth or softness or real change, I’m not so good at. I’m torn between wanting to throw myself into a helicopter and fly over the Atlantic, and wanting to stay home and write my books and read my novels and chat with friends on the phone. Neither one is bad, not by itself. But life is about finding the balance between, of walking the line between complacency and diving headfirst into opportunities. Nobody is going to do the changing for me. If I want to do something differently, to have a different mindset or outlook on life, I’m going to have to do it myself – and it doesn’t take much; it isn’t a complex, complicated process with 100 steps. It just takes one.
In order to change, change.