I was talking with a very dear friend of mine early this afternoon. She’s going through a rough time with a friend, and is in a place where right and wrong seem a little blurred. We discussed where she was and what she was going to do about it, and I prayed for her and gave her a piece of advice which she then urged me to blog about. It’s not much, but it’s something that was a bit like a lightning strike for me. So often we search the world for that one ‘good influence’ – a parent, a friend, a historical figure, a fictional character – and we probably find them. We probably find dozens of good influences. But I think we forget something important.
Strive to be a good influence on yourself.
Whether you realize it or not, you have the biggest influence on you. What you take in, what you do, the words you say, the things you feel; all these come back around and influence you, again and again. Be the sort of person who provides you a good influence. Be the sort of person you can look up to. Be as godly and good as you can be. Be the good influence you need in your life, and you’ll be a good influence those around you. Don’t forget it.
Don’t assume, ask. Be kind. Tell the truth. Don’t say anything you can’t stand behind fully. Have integrity. Tell people how you feel.
— Warsan Shire