the proper ingredients for a rare Georgia snow day


Victoria Erickson said, “If you want gardens, become the gardener.” I was washing the dinner dishes on the second of January when this phrase floated back into my head. I’d been trying to come up with my word for the year, to no avail. My word for 2016 was ‘better,’ because better is something I could always be. ‘Better’ was an anchor for me, and I held to it as hard as I could. It would be hard, I thought, to come up with another word that would help me as much in 2017.

But as the phrase ‘If you want gardens, become the gardener’ came to me, I realized I had my word. ‘Become.’ This is the world I will ink on my wrist so I never forget it, so it stays fresh in my mind for the next year. This year, I will be what I want. Not in a selfish ‘I do what I want, Thor,’ way, but in a way that fills in the gaps. I will work to be extra, to give extra. To provide grace where grace is lacking, to provide love when love is wearing thin.

This year, I strive to become the gardener.

“If you inherently long for something, become it first. If you want gardens, become the gardener. If you want love, embody love. If you want mental stimulation, change the conversation. If you want peace, exude calmness. If you want to fill your world with artists, begin to paint. If you want to be valued, respect your own time. If you want to live ecstatically, find the ecstasy within yourself. This is how to draw it in, day by day, inch by inch.” — Victoria Erickson


      1. Hey, no fair! I live in Florida and right now I have the window open, short sleeves on, and a fan going (though not pointing at me). I just checked, and it’s 71 degrees outside. Where’s my winter weather???


  1. I went to college in GA and I remember campus being shut down for 3 days when it snowed half an inch. Fun times!

    I remember years and years ago reading a Star Wars book (I don’t remember which one but I read most of the books published before 1999). Anyway, in one of the books there was a line that struck me deeply at the time. “Act the way you want to seem.” Not in the artificial, fake way but in the – if you want to come across as kind, gentle, sympathetic, etc., then be kind/gentle/sympathetic in your actions and you’ll become that person. Much like Katy’s transformation in What Katy Did by Susan Coolidge.


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